A life coach accompanies people, adults or children, in achieving their goals. By working towards these objectives, set with the client, we will help them to develop the necessary skills and know-how.
Unlike psychotherapy, coaching is short term, it does not touch the too "intimate", the "troppersonnel". We set a contract of change objectives and aim rather at the effectiveness of the approach. It is estimated that on average, depending on its nature, an objective is achieved in 4 to 10 sessions.
You have to be caring and empathetic rather than sympathetic! Listening and patience are important qualities, because we perceive elements and workings, but we cannot "impose" them: the person must have the necessary time to welcome them by himself. Our professionalism commits us to know how to respect the confidentiality of the sessions and to put the person in confidence within the framework of contractually shared operating rules.
Life coaching is for anyone who needs support in order to achieve personal fulfillment and personal development. It is often a doorway for people who do not wish to engage in long-term accompaniment, those who are worried about psychotherapy, who do not want too much introspection.
I often accompany people on the professional side: retraining, revaluation, reframing.
Frequently, my coaching clients continue their work through psychotherapy to identify the source of the workings that have emerged.
The recurring themes are self-esteem, values, confidence, assertiveness, how to use one's skills instead of being subjected to them, accepting oneself as one is (trusting one's intuition).
I often meet people who are not recognized for their true worth. In particular, employees who have entered a company with a certain level of skills and remuneration, who develop new skills but are unable to make the most of them. A feeling of injustice often appears, which "pulls" the employee. In order to overcome this feeling, to emancipate oneself, the challenge will often be to legitimise oneself in one's new position and to have it recognised. We will work on the brakes, the limitations that the employee 'self-imposes'.
I often receive people with high potential, whose sensitivity allows a fine perception of relationships. They sometimes find it difficult to differentiate themselves from other people's emotions, their anger, their sadness for example, which is mixed with a fear of shining too brightly, of attracting jealousy ...
My one-on-one coaching sessions usually last one hour.
I like to ask my client how he got to know me: it is often by word of mouth, by other practitioners or through my website.
Then I introduce myself, my background, my activity, my training, it is important that people know who they are dealing with. Then, little by little, I set out the operating rules that frame the practice, make it safe and allow the goal to be reached.
We then define the problem, the general objective, which can of course evolve over the course of the coaching.
Some people need to keep in touch with their goals between sessions, to soak them up. So I give them "exercises" to do between two sessions: to describe a situation, a problem for example, in writing. I have many tools at my disposal that can be adapted to each issue and to all types of people.
I was a salesgirl for many years, then a need for retraining arose. I was thinking about coaching and during a skills assessment, I realised that my previous job had enabled me to develop empathic contact, attentive listening, adaptability to many situations, and a great ability to create links. It was already a good start!
So I decided to train at the PSI school in Lyon, a school of systemic and integrative psychotherapy®. Systemic means that I take into account the patient individually, but also by encompassing the system that surrounds him (family, friends, colleagues). Integrative qualifies a practice that follows different currents of psychotherapies (Gestalt, ...) It is a private school, which I chose for the quality of its teaching: for its very experienced supervisors and for the seriousness of the approach. In parallel, I am undergoing psychotherapy, which is an obligation for psychotherapists, I have integrated a peer group and am supervised.
The coaching training is much shorter, but it allowed me to start this new career before I went into psychotherapy.